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King Of The Hill — Church Staff Mentality

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It’s not collaborative. It’s not efficient. And it’s not Christ-honoring.

It’s silo building – also referred to as empire building. And in my experience, it’s much too prevalent within churches.  In fact, its genesis is typically a staff member.

Silo building (or empire building) has this kind of thinking associated with it:

I need to gather up all the available resources (budget dollars, the best volunteers, the coolest graphics for my ministry, the best rooms, technology, and platform time) so I can build my ministry empire. This will ensure my silo is not only separate from other silos, but others will pale in comparison to mine.

Now, although I’ve never heard a blatant statement like that from a staff member, I’ve seen evidence of that mentality.

We can say our staff is all on the same a team. We can say we want other ministries to succeed. But if we don’t information share and consider other’s interests before our own (Philippians 2), we’ll likely revert to building up our own silo.

A leader must exhibit the value of a silo-free zone to avoid this. Amongst your staff, it’s a value that has to be talked about and lived out.

When I was in elementary school, we played on a dirt hill on the corner of the playground. The game: king of the hill. The objective: do whatever you have to, in order to be standing alone on top of the hill. Lie, bite, tackle, manipulate, or punch… sounds fun, doesn’t it?

As leaders and ministers, we might have the talent and skills to be on top of the hill… to have the tallest silo. But I’m pretty sure God isn’t impressed. And in the process of building up our silo, we’ve metaphorically bitten, scratched, tackled, and punched fellow believers and ministers to get to where we are.   For that reason, others will resent us. And the saddest part is, they’ll typically go elsewhere and build their own silo because you wouldn’t share the top of the hill with them. You’ve then perpetuated silo building, instead of building up God’s kingdom.

Here are a few characteristics of a silo-free thinker:

  • Asks the question “Who’s in most need to receive this on our staff team?” when they come across a new resource.
  • Talks about other ministries more than they do their own.
  • Finds ways to serve in other ministries, with no strings attached.
  • Finds ways to repurpose resources among teams and departments.

What silo-building tendencies do you or your ministries have?

How can you avoid the ‘king of the hill’ mentality?

Talk about it with your staff. Pray about it.

It’s not wrong to have a successful ministry (a tall silo). But if you look around and every other ministry has a short silo, it’s a problem. Build theirs up, or let them share yours.

 

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Better Writing For Your Church

Either learn to write effectively or let your church’s message get lost in a world of other less important messages. The church’s message is paramount, and we’ve got to effectively delivery it.

In this video interview, successful Content Activist Ben Stroup provides tips on how to beat the “digital distraction” most of your church members live in. So whether you’re writing emails to church members, blurbs for your church’s bulletin and newsletter, or a white paper to convince your committees of an initiative, this 12 minute video will provide you some practical takeaways for everyday church leadership.

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Hard Conversation Pointers for Members and Staff

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The Latin term for confrontation means – “to turn your face toward; to look at fully.”

For many people, confrontation is something they do passively while walking away from another person, or a reply they make to a tweet or email. But as leaders in the church, we can’t afford to confront cowardly (or sinfully).

In their book Boundaries, Face to Face, @DrHenryCloud and @DrJohnTownsend suggest that “boundary conversations” are “motivated and driven by love, and also are focused and have an agenda.” These are two important components of a confrontation conversation that has boundaries.

It’s critical for church leaders to have hard conversations well. If not done well, such conversations may contribute to festering sin, and might also create a chasm between you and the person being confronted. If that happens, it will make it difficult for you to worship together and do church life together.

Before you decide to initiate a hard conversation like this with someone, determine two things:

  1. Is this something you can overlook? (Proverbs 19:11) Many would-be confrontations can be stopped at this point. Ask yourself – is this person doing something that is wrong, or is it simply something I don’t prefer? If it’s the latter, choose to overlook.
  2. Are my reasons for the conversation motivated and driven by love? In other words, is it driven and motivated by a greater good?

If you’ve determined the offense should not be overlooked, and the confrontation is motivated by love and the greater good, then make the choice to confront the person within these boundaries:

  • Determine your agenda. Be specific. Deal with the most pressing issue, and then stay on agenda. Non-focused confrontations deal with too many issues and instances, and rarely get to resolution.
  • Call the meeting at a time that gives you the best chance for success. Try to be flexible, and adjust to their timing if possible. If they’re not a morning person, than avoid breakfast meetings.
  • Pray… for the other person, their receiving of the message, your attitude, and for God-honoring resolution.
  • Prepare your delivery. Most experts agree you have somewhere between 30 seconds and three minutes to set the tone of a conflict conversation, and that tone is determinative of the outcome. Prepare well for that thirty seconds.
  • Know your desired outcome. Know what equates to success in this confrontation. Allow room for the other person to speak into this, but know what you hope to achieve.
  • Make sure you get to the last 2%. This is the hardest part of the conversation. This is the part that may take people aback. But the last 2% is the reason for the conversation. Say what you need to say. Make sure it’s delivered clearly. Without it, you’ve just engaged in a hard conversation that was all preface.

When you’re done, ask yourself these questions:

  • Did I say anything un-becoming as a Christian?
  • Did I stay on agenda?
  • Did I say the last 2%?
  • Did I listen well to their response?
  • Did we mutually determine a next step to deal with the issue?

Happy hard-conversating.

 

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