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The Hardest Thing A Leader Says…The Last 2%

This is post two of four on church staff values. You can get context from my first post, here: Information Sharing.

 “Your work is not meeting expectations and must improve for you to continue working here.”

“The way you are treating me and others on the staff is unacceptable.”

“When you come to meetings late and unprepared, it reflects poorly on you, your ministry, and me as a leader.”

“As I reviewed your receipts from the most recent conference you attended, I saw some expenditures that caused me concern, and I want to discuss them further with you.”

These are “last 2%” statements. Last 2% statements are the most important things we need to say in a conversation in order to make it effective – but often, they never get said.

We talk around them. We say the other 98% which hints at them. But when the meeting is over, we find we never said clearly that one thing we really needed the other person to hear. And when that happens, the behavior or issue in question will continue on.

If your staff can develop a last 2% culture, you can get to the crux of matters. But that means you have to do these things first…

…Say goodbye to passive-aggressive behavior.

…Say goodbye to ambiguity in conversations.

…Say goodbye to indirect supervision that doesn’t lead to change behavior.

Having a last 2% staff culture doesn’t give permission to constantly lower the boom on people. It doesn’t ignore what you know about their personality and how they receive information best. It just means that what you have to say is important, and they need to hear it clearly.

Here are some takeaways, about how to have a successful “last 2%” conversation.

The last 2% …

…Must be the clearest statement you make in the conversation.

Think through your statement(s). People are only going to remember a few phrases from these conversations (maybe less if it’s really stressful), so make sure you have a simple and clear message.

…Is seasoned with grace.

If the last 2% comes out of a healthy relationship, it shouldn’t rock anyone’s world. It may not be pleasant, but it’s not a relationship killer. Saying hard things can be done gracefully. Jesus and Paul did it often.

…Invites accountability, and requires a follow-up plan.

A good last 2% delivery lets them know the issue and also what needs to be done in response. Just as your 2% statement should be free of ambiguity, so should your plan of action and expectation. It should be followed with a timeline and a plan for follow-up accountability.

…Is a statement you’re committed to.

You don’t want to say the hard thing unless you’re convinced it’s the right thing to say. You only have so much relationship and leader capital, and you have to use it when it’s right. You also have to show commitment to delivery. Once you get into a conversation and they share an excuse, cry, or some other distraction occurs, it’s easy for them to walk out of the office without you ever saying the last 2%. Write it down and know that you have to get your last 2% across, no matter what.

Excellent leaders can deliver thoughtful last 2% statements as needed.

Excellent Christian leaders can deliver thoughtful, prayed about, grace-based last 2% statements as needed.

I’ve found that a last 2% culture allows church staffs to do effective Kingdom work, even more efficiently.

Note: The last 2% concept is not original with me. I believe I heard it first as Willow Creek conference. And I’ve also heard it referred to as the last “10%.”
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Making Your Church Staff Better, With Information

 

A couple years into my role as Executive Pastor at my previous church, I saw a need to develop some staff values. These weren’t published for our church member’s consumption or developed for official use by our personnel team. These were merely created by and used for our staff, as a way of communicating practical expectations. Specifically, they provided a common language for ministry and accountability.

We settled on four values to focus on. As a staff we taught them, lived them, measured against them, and ultimately began to reflect them. They were:

1.         Information sharing

2.         Silo-free zone

3.         Owning it

4.         Saying the last 2%

Over the next couple weeks on this blog,  I’ll unpack the practical takeaways for each of these four values.

Today, I’ll begin with Information Sharing.

The concept is simple – what information do I have and need to share with fellow staff that’ll make them better at their jobs? Determine what that information is, and then share it freely.

This sounds like something everyone would do, right? Not really.

Here’s the struggle. If you share too much information with others, they will be able to do things more effectively. Maybe more effectively than you. You might even find out you’re dispensable.

For example, if you share a church-member’s pastoral care need to a fellow staff member, they might respond quicker than you or your ministry area. If that happens, you may not get all the attention for your pastoral care response to them.

It sounds selfish, but it happens a lot.

Another scenario I’ve witnessed often:

You find out that a member has felt God’s call to begin serving, or perhaps to designate money to a ministry in need. Do you keep that information to yourself so you have first dibs on their time or their financial gift?

Or do you share the information with your staff, determine  together what the greatest need is, and let the ministry with the biggest need follow up with the church member?

Information sharing means you have to:

  • Be mindful of others and how they might benefit from the information you have
  • Not care who gets the credit
  • Live out Philippians 2:3-4, “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of others.”

When you ‘information share’ on your staff,  it becomes a cultural norm – and ultimately, it’s reciprocated. When information sharing happens freely, your whole team improves. And when leadership improves, so does your church.

Practice this week. When you get information, ask yourself if anyone else could benefit from having this same information. And if so, provide it and see what happens.

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Hooters and Me (and you)

After feeling convicted about not having any un-churched friends, I quit my church softball team and joined a co-ed city league. I didn’t know that the local Hooters restaurant had a team in the league.

As I was warming up before a game, I kept noticing Hooters’ girls arrive in their typical service uniforms (from what I’ve been told). I did think it strange that they were wearing stirrups, though. That’s when my teammate said excitedly, “We’re playing the Hooters’ girls!”

My mind raced. Do I feign an injury? Do I call my wife now, as to avoid a problem later? (I’ve posted previously on problem-avoidance.) Then I wondered, “How many church members are going to see me fraternizing with the competition? What will they think? Could I lose my job over this?”

As I walked to the plate for my turn at bat, everything in me said I should strike out and head back to the dugout with no Hooters’ employee interaction. But pride got the best of me, and I mustered a hit that got me to the first base. While standing there, the first base-woman began playing 20 questions with me.

I remember thinking – just keep your eyes on her cleats, and you won’t get in trouble.

Similar to many professions, ministers are faced with the challenges of perception, judgment, and image management. Some of it fair, some of it not.

Some practical takeaways about dealing with perceptions of church-members, and anyone else watching:

  1. Get used to being watched. Really, get comfortable with it.
  2. Besides other people’s expectations of you, God has also clearly said that he has high expectations for those who lead his church (James 3:1 and Titus 1:7-9).
  3. Be above reproach.
  4. Don’t shy away from being around non-Christians just because you might be judged. Jesus did it. But also…
  5. Remember, you’re not Jesus. So don’t let your presence with non-Christians lead to practices of non-Christians.
  6. Don’t pretend to be someone in public who you’re not in private — you should be consistent.
  7. Don’t be afraid to show flaws to others, but don’t perpetuate or celebrate consistent wrong living.
  8. Don’t host staff lunches at Hooters. Not even for their wings.
  9. You probably shouldn’t go Hooters at all (see #6).
  10. If your softball team ever does play a Hooters’ team, trust me, strike out (marriage tip).

Hooters’ eating is likely not a sin—but you’re an example, find wings elsewhere or order out.

As a minister, you can complain that you live in a glass house, or you can own it as the platform that God has set you on for a reason, and set a worthy example for those watching.

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